Leaving an abusive marriage is a difficult and emotional decision, but it’s important to know that legal protections and support systems are available in Singapore. If you are facing domestic abuse and considering divorce, understanding your rights and options can help you take the necessary steps toward a safer future.
What is “Domestic Abuse” in Singapore
Domestic abuse is a pervasive issue that affects individuals across all backgrounds, regardless of gender, age, or social status. While physical violence is often the most visible and widely recognized form of abuse, domestic abuse encompasses a broad range of harmful behaviors that extend far beyond physical harm. In Singapore, the legal system acknowledges and takes action against various forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, financial, and sexual abuse, ensuring that victims have access to protection and legal recourse.
Domestic abuse does not always leave visible scars. Many victims suffer in silence from emotional and psychological abuse, which can be just as damaging as physical violence. This form of abuse includes verbal threats, manipulation, constant belittling, gaslighting and intimidation, all of which can erode a victim’s self-esteem and mental well-being over time. Abusers often exert control through fear, using threats of harm, humiliation, or even legal action to keep their partners in a state of helplessness.
Another prevalent but less recognized form of domestic abuse is financial control. In such cases, an abuser may restrict or withhold money, preventing their spouse from having any financial independence. This may include denying access to bank accounts, refusing to provide household funds, or deliberately sabotaging a spouse’s ability to work. By controlling finances, the abuser ensures that the victim remains dependent and unable to leave the relationship due to financial insecurity.
Sexual abuse within a marriage is another serious issue that is taken seriously under Singapore law. Previously, there is no such law against marital rape and there are no consequences on forcing sexual activities on one’s spouse. However, that has been abolished since it is now recognized that marital rape or coercion does occur in legally recognized relationships. Forced sexual acts, pressure to engage in sexual activity against one’s will, or using sex as a form of control are all considered sexual abuse, and victims have the right to seek legal protection.
Social isolation is another tactic commonly used by abusers, in particular, narcissistic spouses, to maintain control over their partners. This form of abuse involves limiting a spouse’s contact with family, friends, or the outside world, making it more difficult for the victim to seek help or emotional support. Abusers may enforce strict rules about where their partner can go, who they can communicate with, or even control their access to phones and the internet. Over time, this isolation can leave victims feeling trapped, alone, and entirely dependent on their abuser.
Legal Protections for Victims of Domestic Abuse
If you are facing domestic abuse, it is crucial to know that the Women’s Charter in Singapore provides several legal safeguards to protect victims and help ensure their safety. The law recognizes the severity of domestic violence and offers protective measures that can be enforced through the Family Justice Courts. These legal remedies are designed to prevent further harm and provide victims with the security they need to break free from abusive situations.
One of the most common legal measures available to victims of domestic abuse is the Personal Protection Order (PPO). A PPO is a court-issued order that legally prevents an abusive spouse or family member from committing further acts of violence, harassment, or intimidation. If granted, the order prohibits the abuser from engaging in physically harmful behavior or making threats that could endanger the victim’s safety.
To obtain a PPO, the victim must file an application with the Family Justice Courts, detailing the incidents of abuse and providing evidence such as photographs of the injuries, medical reports, police reports, witness statements, or other relevant documentation. If the court determines that the abuse is likely to continue without intervention and it is necessary to protect the victim, a PPO will be granted. The abuser is then legally bound to adhere to the conditions outlined in the order, and any violation of a PPO is a criminal offense that can result in legal penalties, including fines or imprisonment.
In cases where immediate action is needed, victims may apply for an Expedited Protection Order (EPO). An EPO is a temporary emergency order granted when there is an urgent risk of harm, allowing victims to receive protection while awaiting a formal hearing for a full PPO. This order is particularly crucial in situations where the victim faces an imminent threat, such as ongoing physical violence or escalating abuse.
Unlike a standard PPO, which requires a full hearing before being issued, an EPO can be granted without waiting for a court trial and without the abusers attending the court, ensuring that the victim is not left vulnerable while legal proceedings are ongoing. The EPO remains in effect until the court makes a final decision regarding the PPO. If the abuser violates an EPO, they can be subject to criminal prosecution, reinforcing the victim’s safety and providing legal recourse against further harm the victim.
A Domestic Exclusion Order (DEO) is another crucial legal measure that allows victims to continue living in their home without fear of the abuser. In situations where both spouses or family members reside in the same household, the court may issue a DEO, which legally removes the abuser from the shared home or certain parameters of the home while allowing the victim and any children to remain. This prevents the victim from having to seek alternative housing or relocate, minimizing disruption to their life while ensuring their safety.
A DEO is particularly useful for victims who may not have the financial means to leave their home or who need to maintain stability, especially when children are involved. The order is enforceable by law, meaning that if the abuser refuses to leave the residence or attempts to return in violation of the DEO, they can be arrested and charged with an offense.
Filing for Divorce Due to Abuse
Under Singapore’s no-fault divorce system, an irretrievable breakdown of marriage must be proven using one of six legal facts. In abusive marriages, the most common reason cited is unreasonable behavior. This can include physical violence, verbal abuse, emotional manipulation, and financial deprivation. The court will consider evidence such as police reports, medical records, witness statements, and any protection orders that have been issued when deciding on the divorce case.
Child Custody and Protection During Divorce
When children are involved, their safety and well-being become a top priority for the courts. In cases of domestic abuse where violence has been inflicted on the spouse and the child, the Singapore courts may grant sole custody to the non-abusive parent to ensure that the abuser has minimal or supervised access to the child. Child maintenance orders may also be put in place to ensure financial support for the child, even if the abusive spouse is no longer directly involved in their daily life. The court will always act in the child’s best interests when determining custody and access arrangements.
Financial and Housing Support for Victims
Leaving an abusive relationship often brings financial uncertainty, but several options are available in Singapore to help victims transit. If you were financially dependent on your spouse, you may apply for spousal maintenance to ensure continued financial support. The court will also oversee the division of assets, ensuring that matrimonial property is distributed in a fair and just manner. For those in urgent need of alternative housing, shelters and government rental housing support programs can provide a safe space during the transition period.
Seeking Legal Help and Emotional Support
Navigating divorce while dealing with abuse, especially from a narcissistic spouse can be overwhelming, which is why seeking legal and emotional support is crucial. Family lawyers who specialize in abusive divorce cases have experiences dealing with narcissistic spouses, can provide the necessary legal advice and representation. Counseling and support services, such as family service centers and crisis hotlines, can offer guidance and emotional assistance. Women’s shelters and social welfare organizations also provide a safe refuge and practical help for those looking to leave an abusive environment.
For professional legal guidance on divorcing an abusive and/or narcissistic spouse in Singapore, consider reaching out to Jacque Law. Their experienced family law team can provide the necessary legal support to help you through this difficult time.
Final Thoughts
Leaving an abusive marriage requires courage, but you do not have to face it alone. Understanding your legal rights and the support systems available can empower you to take the right steps toward safety and freedom. If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, seeking professional legal and emotional assistance is the best way to ensure a secure and better future.
